All the “leave your abusive spouse,” advice online is like “they don’t deserve your love because they are cruel.” I didn’t agree because I believed everyone deserves love. I had to figure out all by myself that leaving was the loving thing to do— and that my coddling was destroying my ex-spouse. It was hard to figure it out all by myself. I hope someone who needs your article finds it so they don’t have to figure it out all by themselves like I did.
Being coddled after fleeing the southern United States prevented my growth as a human being for a long time it was only after I was given a “kick in the ass” as my mother would say that I grew.
Consequence is not cruelty is difficult to swallow. It's more true in the interpersonal sphere. But avoiding consequence from the systems that be is survival. And getting out of needed survival is such a headgame. Good article!
Also yay people substacking about the amazing digital circus.
All the “leave your abusive spouse,” advice online is like “they don’t deserve your love because they are cruel.” I didn’t agree because I believed everyone deserves love. I had to figure out all by myself that leaving was the loving thing to do— and that my coddling was destroying my ex-spouse. It was hard to figure it out all by myself. I hope someone who needs your article finds it so they don’t have to figure it out all by themselves like I did.
Being coddled after fleeing the southern United States prevented my growth as a human being for a long time it was only after I was given a “kick in the ass” as my mother would say that I grew.
Consequence is not cruelty is difficult to swallow. It's more true in the interpersonal sphere. But avoiding consequence from the systems that be is survival. And getting out of needed survival is such a headgame. Good article!
Also yay people substacking about the amazing digital circus.
zooble was the realest character of them all